🌺💚"Because you're single? Strange... "

🌺💚"Because you're single? Strange... "

I am asked every day.

And we are in 2023. 

Not in 1800.

"Are you straight. 

You're pretty. 

You must have a man perforce”.

And I feel like screaming.

Because I can't stand ignorance and clichés.

“You are 40 years old, 

what are you waiting for? 

Of being old?

You already have a daughter. 

Then no one wants you."

And I thank God for the patience he has given me as a kind gift, 

perhaps in anticipation of my daily meetings.

I repeat: 

we are in 2023.

And a woman is not yet free to be and to live without feeling the weight of the world's judgments on her.

Useless and insensitive questions.

Do you have children? 

Don't you have them? 

Why? 

Don't you want them?

You get married? 

Are you engaged?

You are this. 

You are that.

Then I answer badly.

Because I don't always feel like smiling.

Then I point out that she is better alone than with a man to cheat on or who cheats on me or stays with me just because she "should".

I remember that a single mother can work and support her children alone and that she does not have to be rescued by anyone because there is no monster intent on devouring her.

I remember that loving someone is not an obligation or a force.

Because love happens.

You can't search for it or design it.

It's not addiction. 

And it's not a contract.

And it's rare. 

Is gorgeous.

And when I will love again she will have to be worth it and the smiles.

It won't have to be a problem or a pain.

It will add value to perfection.

You won't have to fix me.

You won't have to destroy me.

I'm fine by myself.

And I wish I wasn't looked at like an alien when I say it serenely and smiling.

Don't judge the lives you will never be able to live.

Analyze your world.

And ask yourself if you are really as happy as you would like to believe.

Because I, 

happy, 

am.

And I don't need to prove it to anyone... 

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