🌹💜There is a form of violence that is always told very little,
because unlike beatings,
it does not leave external bruises.
But inside it does unheard-of damage.
It's very difficult to prove,
but easy to recognize,
if you have the proper tools.
Psychological violence.
When he constantly criticizes you because according to him you're never good.
He wants you different.
More and more.
Always less. Never yourself.
In a race where you win nothing because you're not supposed to make it.
When he insults you.
When he's always better than you.
The things he does are perfect,
you can't do anything.
And the subtext is that without him you are useless.
That you don't know and you can't live without him,
because your life since you've been together finally makes sense.
Finally there is someone who takes care of you,
even if you are worthless.
He is the benefactor,
you are the fool who must be grateful to him.
When he's jealous.
Even if the narrative of love
he wanted us to believe that jealousy is a demonstration
of interest,
at any level
practiced is unhealthy,
because it takes away freedom from the other,
it is based on lack of trust,
on accusations, on a sense of guilt,
on possession.
A jealous person can be seen immediately and a healthy person cannot allow any form of jealousy.
When he checks you.
The phone.
How are you dressed.
Your movements.
Your friendships.
Your duration
on whatsapp and on social networks, with
related allegations.
Because control and jealousy often go hand in hand.
When it's always your fault.
If he's nervous it's because you made him nervous.
If he's angry, it's because you're doing something wrong.
If he's jealous,
it's because you trust other men too much.
If he's violent it's because you pushed too hard.
If he won't let you out,
it's because you're unreliable.
If he yells at you,
it's because you pushed him to the limit.
When your feelings aren't validated and you're passed off as the one who deserves the loony bin.
If you are sad it is because you are too emotional.
If you're angry it's because you have
the cycle.
If you are disappointed it is because you expect too much.
If you want to leave him it is because you cannot be satisfied.
If you cry it's because you exaggerated.
If you're desperate it's because you're crazy.
Everything you hear is not real
and above all he is the victim
of your madness.
The beatings are unforgivable,
but remember that often before physical violence,
there is emotional violence,
manipulation,
the relationship that becomes toxic.
And know how to recognize these
signals is crucial to understanding that what
you are living, IT IS NOT NORMAL
and should not be considered
such.
Who loves you makes your life more beautiful...
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