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3 Surprising Facts About Porn Shoots
3 Surprising Facts About Porn Shoots
Because what you see on RedTube doesn’t tell the whole story
Jenn Tisdale, 33, is used to doing bold things that might make other women cringe—after all, she's a comedian who’ll do whatever it takes to get laughs when she’s onstage. But the gutsiest thing she’s done by far? Responding to an open casting call from porn star James Deen back in September.
Deen posted the announcement that he was looking for a woman to film a sex scene with him via Twitter (the person he was supposed to shoot it with had canceled on him). Tisdale wasn't even sure if the Tweet was legitimate, but she decided to respond for fun—she definitely didn't think she would actually hear about it ever again. But then Deen's "model coordinator" e-mailed Tisdale a few hours later, asking if she wanted to shoot a scene in New York City with him. "It was real," she says.
In addition to doing standup, Tisdale works as a writer at the Washington, D.C.-based website BrightestYoungThings. So when she heard back from Deen’s model coordinator, she asked her co-workers if they thought she should do it. Their unanimous answer? Yes. Not only were they curious about what really goes on at a porn shoot, but they also thought the experience would make for a great story. "I had no desire to do porn," says Tisdale. "But it was more about who was asking to have sex than my interest in porn. If I saw [Deen] on the street, I’d be interested in sleeping with him."
Before she could do that, though, Tisdale had to go through STD testing and background screening. A couple of weeks later, it was go time—although Tisdale had known from the start that she would write about what it was like to sleep with Deen. "Honestly, I wrote about it because it’s something I would want to read," says Tisdale. She never expected her story to get picked up by so many websites—XO Jane, Jezebel, The Daily Mail, and Huffington Post, just for starters. But even before her article (and the video she made with Deen!) went viral, Tisdale had no hesitations talking about her experience. "Immediately afterward, I was psyched about everything," Tisdale says. "I hopped into a cab, and the first things I said to the driver were, 'Hi, I'd like to go to this bar,' and 'I just made a porn,'" she says. "I told everyone."
Find out some of the biggest secrets Tisdale learned on-set:
Periods Don't Get in the Way
"I warned James mine was coming, and I asked him what the professionals do," says Tisdale. The short answer? The show must go on. Period sex can make some men squeamish—but not seasoned pros like Deen, who suggested the two move from the bed to the shower to make mess a non-issue.
"I warned James mine was coming, and I asked him what the professionals do," says Tisdale. The short answer? The show must go on. Period sex can make some men squeamish—but not seasoned pros like Deen, who suggested the two move from the bed to the shower to make mess a non-issue.
Porn Shoots Don’t Always End with an Orgasm
Despite Deen's sex-star rep, he still couldn’t make Tisdale climax—which was OK by her. "There are all sorts of things you can do in bed to make sex fun without having an orgasm," she says. "[Deen has] done this so many times, so he knows how to move a lady around."
Despite Deen's sex-star rep, he still couldn’t make Tisdale climax—which was OK by her. "There are all sorts of things you can do in bed to make sex fun without having an orgasm," she says. "[Deen has] done this so many times, so he knows how to move a lady around."
…But Porn Stars Do Care About Each Other's Pleasure
When you watch porn, it can seem like it’s all about one person—usually the guy—but Tisdale was happy to find Deen was curious about her sexual preferences, too. "He asked ahead of time what I did and didn't like," she says. "I told him exactly what I was comfortable with and what I liked, and he was fine with that."
When you watch porn, it can seem like it’s all about one person—usually the guy—but Tisdale was happy to find Deen was curious about her sexual preferences, too. "He asked ahead of time what I did and didn't like," she says. "I told him exactly what I was comfortable with and what I liked, and he was fine with that."
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Are you an attacker, a defender, or a sitting duck?
The time has come to make your own preparations for leading your business. Conditions are changing, and so too are the capabilities demanded of leaders. Management training programs and career paths that move you up step by step in a functional silo don’t cut it. They were designed in earlier times when external conditions were more stable. They do little to prepare you for an environment in which industries and market spaces can get obliterated practically overnight. Nor do they help you develop the large-scale entrepreneurialism that underlies many recent successes, from Facebook and Google to Netflix and Twitter.
What matters now is how quickly you can spot the opportunities that are emerging and mobilize the organization to pursue them. You need to be on the offense, ahead of the curve, creating a bend in the road that other players have to negotiate around.
Think of how Apple changed the game for the music industry with the iPod and iTunes, putting a permanent chink in the profitability of the big music producers. Or how Amazon undermined the big book retailers Borders and Barnes & Noble when it was first to sell books online. Now AirBnb is attacking the hotel business, while Uber and Lyft are taking on taxi’s.
The truth is that few leaders areattackers. Many more are defenders,who struggle to maintain their existing business when shifts in the competitive landscape and money making have already begun. Still others are sitting ducks, unaware of the changes that are underway until it is too late to recover.
Where do you stand? Answer the following questions to rate yourself on a scale from 1 to 10, where 1 is “not at all true” and 10 is “very true.”
- I am aware that structural change is occurring more frequently and that it is my job as a leader to detect it.
- I frequently scan the external landscape looking for developments that might impact my business.
- Instead of ignoring, fighting or worrying about structural change, I look for opportunity in it.
- I consider it part of my job as a leader to create structural change that benefits my organization.
- I regularly look beyond my industry to monitor the geopolitical and other macro factors that can impact the global economy and business landscape.
- I have created disciplined routines for myself and my team to rise above the daily details and sharpen our ability to detect and predict structural changes.
- Whenever operating problems arise, I check to see if they are related to any signs of structural change.
- I track companies that are using mathematics and advanced computing power to transform their businesses—even if they are outside my industry—and imagine how some of them might destroy our industry and reshape our market space.
- I accept the fact that uncertainty is here to stay, and that I may need to make bold decisions even when some of the deciding factors are still not clear.
- I am psychologically and organizationally prepared to recognize structural uncertainty and convert it into breakthrough opportunities.
Now add your points. If you scored 90-100 points, you qualify as an Attacker. Congratulations. If you scored 60-90 you are a Defender. You should up your game to keep pace with the speed of external change. If you scored lower than 60, you are aSitting Duck, at risk of being blindsided by an attack you don’t see coming.
Here are some steps you can take to better prepare yourself for going on the attack:
- Reflect on your attitude about structural uncertainty. Think of structural changes you have witnessed in recent years and consider who created them and how others responded to them. As you reflect on leaders who created a structural change for other companies, think about what they saw that others didn’t see.
- Commit to widening your lens, scanning the environment broadly for things that are new and different, from technology developments to social trends. Seek ways to turn them to advantage. How might these transform the consumer experience?
- Decide on one or two new habits you will adopt to stay better attuned to external change, particularly outside your industry. These could include a daily practice of reading the newspaper–for example, the Lex column in the Financial Times–or setting aside ten minutes at the beginning of every staff meeting to discuss with others what they’re picking up from the outside world and what it might mean for your business.
- Recognize that in today’s world total clarity may come too late. Go beyond hard facts to make judgments about what is unfolding and encourage others to do the same. Test your hypotheses, then muster the courage act on your new insights.
This article is published in collaboration with LinkedIn. Publication does not imply endorsement of views by the World Economic Forum.
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Author: Ram Charan is a Global Adviser to CEOs & Corporate Boards.
Image: A worker arrives at his office in the Canary Wharf business district in London. REUTERS/Eddie Keogh.
The 7 biggest excuses that stop you succeeding
I’ve written several times in the past about the qualities and elements that successful people share, but I think perhaps the most important is their ability to get past excuses.
So many people in life get hung up on excuses — feeling they can’t go out for the better job, start their own business, or take whatever risk because of… whatever it might be.
Excuses are like noses, we all have one. But when you can train yourself to see these flimsy ideas for what they are, and stop treating them as a brick wall in your path, you can move past them towards your own success.
Here are just a few of the excuses I hear most often — whether from individuals about their own dreams or executives about their company’s direction.
- I don’t have the money.
I’ve heard this at every level, from the bloke who has an idea to start his own business all the way up to the mega-corporations I’ve consulted with. The point is, you can make this excuse whether you’ve got one dollar or one million.The people who get past it, however, are the ones who succeed. They find a way around it. They barter or trade for the services they need. They start a side hustle and save up. They cut their expenses. They find an investor, take out a loan, apply for a grant.Successful people don’t let the lack of any resource (money being just a resource, after all) keep them stuck for long. - I don’t have the time.
All the most successful people in the world — Richard Branson, Bill Gates, Oprah — have the same 24 hours in a day that you do.Examine closely how you spend your time, and you’ll see where your priorities truly lie. There are very few commitments in this life that are truly non-negotiable. Allowing yourself to fall into the trap of the idea that you don’t have time to do what you want just shows that you don’t want it badly enough. - I’ve never done this before.
There are loads of things you’ve succeeded at that you’d never done before you tried. You’d never walked before you did, never driven a car before you first got behind the wheel, never had a job before your first one.Every journey starts with the first step, but you have to take it. - I don’t have the skills.
I have one word of advice for you: Google.You can find instructions, how-tos and even books and courses on how to do practically anything on the Internet — for free. If you still can’t find what you need, buy a book. Still struggling? Hire a coach.You can get a college-level education just from reading the books found in your local library, so throw away the idea that a fancy degree is standing between you and what you want, because it’s almost never true. - The conditions aren’t right.
Waiting for things to be perfect is maybe the worst possible excuse, because things will never be perfect. No one is going to come along with a stopwatch and say, “If you start… NOW! You’ll succeed!”Loads of things were launched at the “wrong” time or before the world was ready. Some of them failed, and some succeeded beyond anybody’s wildest dreams. Waiting for the “right conditions” is like the fisherman sitting on the banks, waiting for the fish, but never putting his hook in the water — that is to say, kind of pointless. - _________ says I can’t/shouldn’t/am not good enough to do this.
Here’s the thing: nothing amazing, innovative, revolutionary ever came out of a group consensus. In fact, many of the most truly revolutionary ideas were met with a great deal of hostility and skepticism. That TV thing is just a fad. The Internet will never catch on. Who wants to be on Facebook all day long?The truth is, people are going to disagree with you. They won’t get your vision. They won’t believe in you.Doesn’t matter. Only one person needs to believe in what you’re doing when you start, and that’s you. - I don’t have anything new.
Some of the most successful businesses out there didn’t invent something totally new. Which came first, LivingSocial or Groupon? MySpace came before Facebook.The point is, you don’t have to do something completely new to be successful. Take something that already exists and improve on it, change it, tweak it, turn it around and give it your own spin.There are millions of books out there, but each one is different. There are thousands of stand-up comics, each with his or her own show. Loads of accountants, software developers, designers, manufacturers.It’s not about how you will be totally new, but how you will be different.
These are just a few of the top excuses I have heard, but they’re certainly not the only ones. I’d love to hear from you: What excuses have you heard? Or maybe you have used an excuse that’s held you back from success? Please share your thoughts in the comments.
This article is published in collaboration with LinkedIn. Publication does not imply endorsement of views by the World Economic Forum.
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Author: Bernard Marr is a Keynote Speaker and Leading Business and Data Expert.
Image: People cross an illuminated floor at a banking district in central Tokyo. REUTERS/Thomas Peter
How much plastic goes into the oceans each year?
You might have heard the oceans are full of plastic, but how full exactly? Around 8 million metric tonnes go into the oceans each year, according to the first rigorous global estimate published in Science today.
That’s equivalent to 16 shopping bags full of plastic for every metre of coastline (excluding Antarctica). By 2025 we will be putting enough plastic in the ocean (on our most conservative estimates) to cover 5% of the earth’s entire surface in cling film each year.
Around a third of this likely comes from China, and 10% from Indonesia. In fact all but one of the top 20 worst offenders are developing nations, largely due to fast-growing economies but poor waste management systems.
However, people in the United States – coming in at number 20 and producing less than 1% of global waste – produce more than 2.5 kg of plastic waste each day, more than twice the amount of people in China.
While the news for us, our marine wildlife, seabirds, and fisheries is not good, the research paves the way to improve global waste management and reduce plastic in the waste stream.
Follow the plastic
An international team of experts analysed 192 countries bordering the Atlantic, Pacific and Indian Oceans, and the Mediterranean and Black Seas. By examining the amount of waste produced per person per year in each country, the percentage of that waste that’s plastic, and the percentage of that plastic waste that is mismanaged, the team worked out the likely worst offenders for marine plastic waste.
In 2010, 270 million tonnes of plastic was produced around the world. This translated to 275 million tonnes of plastic waste; 99.5 million tonnes of which was produced by the two billion people living within 50 km of a coastline. Because some durable items such as refrigerators produced in the past are also thrown away, we can find more waste than plastic produced at times.
Of that, somewhere between 4.8 and 12.7 million tonnes found its way into the ocean. Given how light plastic is, this translates to an unimaginably large volume of debris.
While plastic can make its way into oceans from land-locked countries via rivers, these were excluded in the study, meaning the results are likely a conservative estimate.
With our planet still 85 years away from “peak waste” — and with plastic production skyrocketing around the world — the amount of plastic waste getting into the oceans is likely to increase by an order of magnitude within the next decade.
Our recent survey of the Australian coastline found three-quarters of coastal rubbish is plastic, averaging more than 6 pieces per meter of coastline. Offshore, we found densities from a few thousand pieces of plastic to more than 40,000 pieces per square kilometre in the waters around the continent.
Where is the plastic going?
While we now have a rough figure for the amount of plastic rubbish in the world’s oceans, we still know very little about where it all ends up (it isn’t all in the infamous “Pacific Garbage Patch”).
Between 6,350 and 245,000 metric tons of plastic waste is estimated to float on the ocean’s surface, which raises the all-important question: where does the rest of it end up?
Some, like the plastic microbeads found in many personal care products, ends up in the oceans and sediments where they can be ingested by bottom-dwelling creatures and filter-feeders.
It’s unclear where the rest of the material is. It might be deposited on coastal margins, or maybe it breaks down into fragments so small we can’t detect it, or maybe it is in theguts of marine wildlife.
Wherever it ends up, plastic has enormous potential for destruction. Ghost nets and fishing debris snag and drown turtles, seals, and other marine wildlife. In some cases, these interactions have big impacts.
For instance, we estimate that around 10,000 turtles have been trapped by derelict nets in Australia’s Gulf of Carpentaria region alone.
More than 690 marine species are known to interact with marine litter. Turtles mistake floating plastic for jellyfish, and globally around one-third of all turtles are estimated to have eaten plastic in some form. Likewise seabirds eat everything from plastic toys,nurdles and balloon shreds to foam, fishing floats and glow sticks.
While plastic is prized for its durability and inertness, it also acts as a chemical magnet for environmental pollutants such as metals, fertilisers, and persistent organic pollutants. These are adsorbed onto the plastic. When an animal eats the plastic “meal”, these chemicals make their way into their tissues and — in the case of commercial fish species — can make it onto our dinner plates.
Plastic waste is the scourge of our oceans; killing our wildlife, polluting our beaches, and threatening our food security. But there are solutions – some of which are simple, and some a bit more challenging.
Solutions
If the top five plastic-polluting countries – China, Indonesia, the Philippines, Vietnam and Sri Lanka – managed to achieve a 50% improvement in their waste management — for example by investing in waste management infrastructure, the total global amount of mismanaged waste would be reduced by around a quarter.
Higher-income countries have equal responsibility to reduce the amount of waste produced per person through measures such as plastic recycling and reuse, and by shifting some of the responsibility for plastic waste back onto the producers.
The simplest and most effective solution might be to make the plastic worth money. Deposits on beverage containers for instance, have proven effective at reducing waste lost into the environment – because the containers, plastic and otherwise, are worth money people don’t throw them away, or if they do others pick them up.
Extending this idea to a deposit on all plastics at the beginning of their lifecycle, as raw materials, would incentivize collection by formal waste managers where infrastructure is available, but also by consumers and entrepreneurs seeking income where it is not.
Before the plastic revolution, much of our waste was collected and burned. But the ubiquity, volume, and permanence of plastic waste demands better solutions.
This article is published in collaboration with The Conversation. Publication does not imply endorsement of views by the World Economic Forum.
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Author: Britta Denise Hardesty Senior Research Scientist, Oceans and Atmosphere Flagship at CSIRO. Chris Wilcox joined CSIRO as a senior researcher in the Marine and Atmospheric Research Division in 2005.
Image: A Green Sea turtle swims over a reef near the surf break known as ‘Pipeline’ on the North Shore of Oahu, Hawaii March 20, 2013. REUTERS/Hugh Gentry.
7 Facts About Cellulite You Need to Know
7 Facts About Cellulite You Need to Know
How common it is, how it happens... and how to banish it, as well as you can
Ah, cellulite. Like your nosy aunt, it's annoying—but also a nearly unavoidable part of life. Anybody can develop this pesky skin situation: It appears when collagen fibers that bind fat to the skin stretch and tear, allowing fat cells to expand. Learn more about cellulite and your body, especially how to get rid of those annoying marks once and for all (or at least how to make them less noticeable).
Cellulite Is Not Fat
Don’t get the two confused: Cellulite is just the dimples and bumps that are seen when fat is divided into tiny pockets in the skin, says board certified plastic surgeon Matthew Schulman, M.D. Interesting…
Don’t get the two confused: Cellulite is just the dimples and bumps that are seen when fat is divided into tiny pockets in the skin, says board certified plastic surgeon Matthew Schulman, M.D. Interesting…
It’s More Common in Women Than in Men
How unfair is this? Women's skin collagen is arranged in parallel rows, like pillars. This pattern lends itself to the compartmentalization of fat, which makes cellulite visible, says Schulman. Men's collagen, however, is arranged in an X-pattern. This creates only very small fat compartments and doesn’t allow for dimpling of the skin.
How unfair is this? Women's skin collagen is arranged in parallel rows, like pillars. This pattern lends itself to the compartmentalization of fat, which makes cellulite visible, says Schulman. Men's collagen, however, is arranged in an X-pattern. This creates only very small fat compartments and doesn’t allow for dimpling of the skin.
OTC Creams May Help
Be on the lookout for products that have caffeine or retinol: Caffeine stimulates blood flow and temporarily shrinks fat cells, while retinol helps repair cells over time, says Francesca Fusco, M.D., an assistant clinical professor of dermatology at Mount Sinai School of Medicine. Experts suggest applying a cream with retinol first, followed by one with caffeine. Keep in mind, though, that these won’t actually get rid of cellulite.
Be on the lookout for products that have caffeine or retinol: Caffeine stimulates blood flow and temporarily shrinks fat cells, while retinol helps repair cells over time, says Francesca Fusco, M.D., an assistant clinical professor of dermatology at Mount Sinai School of Medicine. Experts suggest applying a cream with retinol first, followed by one with caffeine. Keep in mind, though, that these won’t actually get rid of cellulite.
There is a Cure!
Doctors have FDA-approved methods to get rid of cellulite—like Cellulaze—but these methods are typically costly (Cellulaze can set you back hundreds or thousands of dollars, depending on the size of the treatment area). The process takes about an hour, but the effects can last for years, say experts.
Doctors have FDA-approved methods to get rid of cellulite—like Cellulaze—but these methods are typically costly (Cellulaze can set you back hundreds or thousands of dollars, depending on the size of the treatment area). The process takes about an hour, but the effects can last for years, say experts.
Exercise Can Also Reduce the Appearance of Cellulite
It's true! Sue Hitzmann, the founder of The MELT Method, suggests thesefoam rolling moves to help. Interval training also burns fat (making cellulite less noticeable)—even after you're done sweating, says Garson Grant, master trainer at Chelsea Piers in New York City. More of a yogi? Check out these yoga moves that help fight cellulite.
It's true! Sue Hitzmann, the founder of The MELT Method, suggests thesefoam rolling moves to help. Interval training also burns fat (making cellulite less noticeable)—even after you're done sweating, says Garson Grant, master trainer at Chelsea Piers in New York City. More of a yogi? Check out these yoga moves that help fight cellulite.
Losing Weight Doesn't Make Cellulite Disappear
Yes, having more body fat ups your chances of having visible cellulite. But even when you slim down, the tissue is still stretched and damaged, says Hitzman. Genes, inflammation, and hormonal imbalances all affect how much cellulite you have, says Joshua Zeichner, M.D., director of cosmetic and clinical research in dermatology at Mt. Sinai Hospital in New York City—so even if you drop a ton of pounds, that doesn't mean you'll totally eliminate the stuff. (Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.)
Yes, having more body fat ups your chances of having visible cellulite. But even when you slim down, the tissue is still stretched and damaged, says Hitzman. Genes, inflammation, and hormonal imbalances all affect how much cellulite you have, says Joshua Zeichner, M.D., director of cosmetic and clinical research in dermatology at Mt. Sinai Hospital in New York City—so even if you drop a ton of pounds, that doesn't mean you'll totally eliminate the stuff. (Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.)
UV Rays Worsen the Appearance of Cellulite
One more reason to use sunscreen religiously: UV rays can damage collagen, making cellulite more noticeable. Remember to slather on SPF (and don't forget these seven places you're probably forgetting to put on sunscreen).
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One more reason to use sunscreen religiously: UV rays can damage collagen, making cellulite more noticeable. Remember to slather on SPF (and don't forget these seven places you're probably forgetting to put on sunscreen).
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What He Wants You to Do (and Say) When He Can’t Get It Up
What He Wants You to Do (and Say) When He Can’t Get It Up
The dos and don’ts of dealing with his boner (or rather lack thereof)
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The candles are lit. The Jason Derulo playlist is cued up. After X number of dates where you’ve flirted back and forth, you and this dude are ready to take the next step. So, it kind of sucks when his penis responds to its invitation to the party with a “Nah, y’all have fun. I’m gonna chill here.”
Dysfunction of the junk-tion is embarrassing for any guy, but it can be just as tough for you to handle, too. Here are a few tips on how best to navigate the situation.
On your end, there’s really no reason to ask this question. Either it has happened before and then you’re left thinking about him with other ladies or this is the first time and you think, “Oh my god, I broke him!” (You haven’t. He probably just had too much whiskey).
And to him, that question isn’t going to resolve the situation. If the problem is that he’s too in his head, forcing him to catalog his sexual history will only make it worse. People get off on some unique things, but existential rabbit holes about manliness are not one of them.
Erectile dysfunction has nothing to do with you as a person or a partner. No man has ever thought, “Hm, I wanna have sex with that girl. I just hope I want to have sex with her enough that my penis gets hard.” That disparity simply does not exist. If you guys have made it all the way to the bedroom while “Talk Dirty” is playing, he’s down—even if his penis is too.
Instead of asking what’s wrong or why it’s wrong, talk about what you or him might be able to do in order to fix the situation. “Would it help if I [insert sexy thing that you are comfortable doing]?” is just about the best thing a girl can say in the situation.
Or, if you’re feeling adventurous, a more open-ended, “What can I do to help?” would suffice. (Just know that he’s probably going to ask for a blow job.)
If you’re using condoms and the guy is having trouble, it’s not unlikely for him to blame it on the contraceptive. Check if maybe there’s another style of condom he’d prefer, but don’t immediately chastise him for trying to get out of wearing one. He’s probably just complaining and fully understands the importance of condoms as much as you do.
That being said, don’t let him use this as an excuse to get out of wearing one. Whining about condoms is annoying—but not as annoying as a two-year-old.
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