📚5 differences between Narcissism and self-esteem📖
In research we find clear differences between narcissism and self-esteem, despite behaviors that may, in the absence of more information, be attributed to both origins. In this way, how do we differentiate both modalities in one person? Let's find out some points that clearly distinguish them.
In research we find clear differences between narcissism and self-esteem, despite behaviors that may, in the absence of more information, be attributed to both origins. In this way, how do we differentiate both modalities in one person? Let's find out some points that clearly distinguish them.
1.
The narcissist has an exaggerated perception of himself
The main difference between the narcissistic person and the one with good self-esteem is the image of herself. I mean, the first one is given exaggerated and truly distorted importance. The second alludes to a much more innermost inflated satisfaction, and better argued.
The main difference between the narcissistic person and the one with good self-esteem is the image of herself. I mean, the first one is given exaggerated and truly distorted importance. The second alludes to a much more innermost inflated satisfaction, and better argued.
I
mean, the narcissist seeks well-being and safety through an
exaggerated image, which is actually a distorted self-perception.
That is, it shows a true internal void in which an insecure person is
hidden.
For
his part, a person with good self-esteem bases his well-being on
satisfying relationships. What's the same, doesn't give your image
more importance than it really has. Being a self-confident profile,
you don't need to exaggerate or highlight successes in front of
others, just enjoy celebrating them.
"
Don't you think it's strange when someone has photographs of
themselves all over their house? It's like they're trying to prove
they exist "
2.
Assertivity vs need of attention
A person with high self esteem is assertive. He knows how to listen, attend and choose the moments to talk. In fact, he does so with knowledge and always bringing value to his intervention. I mean, he has emotional and social intelligence. In addition, he enjoys the patience given him the assurance that, when your turn comes, you will be able to express your opinion.
A person with high self esteem is assertive. He knows how to listen, attend and choose the moments to talk. In fact, he does so with knowledge and always bringing value to his intervention. I mean, he has emotional and social intelligence. In addition, he enjoys the patience given him the assurance that, when your turn comes, you will be able to express your opinion.
However,
the narcissistic profile, given its exorbitious cult of the image,
needs attention. I mean, he will always try to be the " target
of the spotlight ", so he will seek to become the " center
of the party " and let everyone know it's there. He needs a
constant cult of himself from others.
3.
Empathy
At the previous point, a detail in which narcissistic people who have healthy self-esteem are differentiated is their ability to be empathetic. Precisely because the person with healthy self-esteem can develop in social interaction this patience we were talking about and which is essential for active listening.
While a narcissist only thinks of himself and his image, a person with healthy self-esteem is in a better position to connect with others. That is, by not having your attention busy because of the need to please, you can use it in putting yourself on the "skin" of others. It's easier for you to understand other views, ideologies and feelings.
At the previous point, a detail in which narcissistic people who have healthy self-esteem are differentiated is their ability to be empathetic. Precisely because the person with healthy self-esteem can develop in social interaction this patience we were talking about and which is essential for active listening.
While a narcissist only thinks of himself and his image, a person with healthy self-esteem is in a better position to connect with others. That is, by not having your attention busy because of the need to please, you can use it in putting yourself on the "skin" of others. It's easier for you to understand other views, ideologies and feelings.
4.
Selfish in the face of cooperation
Another key we can differentiate narcissism and self-esteem is selfishness. It's easy to think that someone who only thinks of himself loves himself well, but in reality this want to project is so full of doubts that it ends up being their worst enemy.
Another key we can differentiate narcissism and self-esteem is selfishness. It's easy to think that someone who only thinks of himself loves himself well, but in reality this want to project is so full of doubts that it ends up being their worst enemy.
Thus,
a person with high self-esteem knows when and how to show generosity
and is cooperative. Meanwhile, the narcissist is incapable of it, if
he won't make a profit, it will be difficult to strive.
5.
Arrogant versus compassionate
Arrogance would be the fifth difference between narcissism and self-esteem. While the narcissist shows no compassion for anyone, except perhaps for himself, the people who really love each other have in mind are worth and the beautiful challenge of helping others.
Arrogance would be the fifth difference between narcissism and self-esteem. While the narcissist shows no compassion for anyone, except perhaps for himself, the people who really love each other have in mind are worth and the beautiful challenge of helping others.
So,
the narcissist, in his arrogance, is usually aggressive, envious and
in need to master to feel good. He will hardly accept a criticism
and, however neutral, will tend to take it personally... and not for
the good, precisely. He will hardly learn from his mistakes because
he has difficulty perceiving them and above all, accepting them.
A
narcissistic person and a person with healthy self-esteem, in the
first instance, can seem very similar. However, when time passes and
begins to give coherence to the two personalities, we see how this
likeness between narcissism and self-esteem dilutes just like water
mirage in front of an oasis.
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