Stop
dealing with what hurts us is of ready, not cowards...
Choosing to be strong and facing pain is the best thing we can do, but sometimes that strategy doesn't mean you're going to re-live it and you'll be in it continually. Avoid something that costs you work and that challenges you to get what you value in life is to flee. Avoid finding yourself continually with what disturbs your mood and is preventing you from living with tranquility is emotional intelligence.
Freedom and strength also lies in the fact of avoiding running over and over with what makes us uncomfortable or produces pain. Being strong is to face your fears and ghosts, for example the fear of rejection by showing us as we are. And we are so much what we like as what we don't like. That's why stop dealing with what hurts us is ready, not cowards.
Stop dealing with the useless pain that prevents us from evolving
Some humanist psychologists like Carl Rogers already pointed out that the trend of every human being is to self-self. Others like Kelly, Royce and Powell talked about the ability of the human being to be an active agent who builds their reality in order to adapt to the world and, also, build their own individuality.
This process of search and experimentation is totally exciting if little by little you are finding what makes you grow as a person and do not stand in a propotipo more similar to that of an automaton than that of an original and dynamic person, which changes over time and The circumstances.
Depression and anxiety sometimes have their origin in immobility. An immobility that is derived from the imposed belief that, to be valid people, we have to gala an unusual fortress before what we do not endure. Also, attached to this belief, we find the idea that our success lies in being able to overcome it and be victorious.
Many psychological disorders appear when we are not able to say in time "enough". something apparently easy in some contexts, but tremendously difficult for some people who prefer to sit in an uncomfortable and dangerous seat before making the effort to repair it.
Saying enough is necessary
In a world in which the state of happiness is no longer a state of mind more, but a constant imposition: be happy, be strong and above all prove it. This created need becomes an emotional prison that does not let the whole complex psychic dynamism that we have human beings.
One of the components of that dynamism is the displeasure and pain that certain people and situations produce. Human beings feel pain, we will always feel it, but being able to avoid it when it is in our hand is a healthy emotional strategy. That does not determine our greatest or lesser strength, but our intelligence to avoid what we know has always weakened us.
" be strong son, that child will not be able to with you; face him ". " be strong before a break, you must face to see your ex with another ". " be strong and hold, even if that work do not like it, you will have Your salary ". " relationship with all kinds of people, although sometimes they are harmful, life is like this ". " do not take so seriously the contempt of your family, blood is the blood ". who has not heard These phrases ever?
While it is true that life is like this, with hard times, we must not define strength and cowardice in these terms. The fortress has more in relation to claims of the type " I have to achieve some day in public because this is important for my work "; " today I want to have a good time and I don't have to be in the same place as my ex-couple when I haven't overcome the breakup yet ". " I won't shut up before my mother's contempt in public " or " I'll leave this job because I'm exhausted and it's not what i wish in life ".
For the vast majority, the latest claims belong to utopia, to immature or selfish people. However, the first perpetuate much more situations of pain and injustice than the second. They create unhappy people with their work, couple and friends. They create people unable to self-self for not knowing how to differentiate the useless pain of valuable pain.
Understanding bad the strength creates cowardly people regarding their own feelings. Waste Talent and passions for being in places and next to wrong people. So, think that if you're smart you won't have to develop so much strength to face complicated situations. Don't feel a coward, but someone who fights for what makes him stronger and not that he is committed to dealing with what weakens him.
Choosing to be strong and facing pain is the best thing we can do, but sometimes that strategy doesn't mean you're going to re-live it and you'll be in it continually. Avoid something that costs you work and that challenges you to get what you value in life is to flee. Avoid finding yourself continually with what disturbs your mood and is preventing you from living with tranquility is emotional intelligence.
Freedom and strength also lies in the fact of avoiding running over and over with what makes us uncomfortable or produces pain. Being strong is to face your fears and ghosts, for example the fear of rejection by showing us as we are. And we are so much what we like as what we don't like. That's why stop dealing with what hurts us is ready, not cowards.
Stop dealing with the useless pain that prevents us from evolving
Some humanist psychologists like Carl Rogers already pointed out that the trend of every human being is to self-self. Others like Kelly, Royce and Powell talked about the ability of the human being to be an active agent who builds their reality in order to adapt to the world and, also, build their own individuality.
This process of search and experimentation is totally exciting if little by little you are finding what makes you grow as a person and do not stand in a propotipo more similar to that of an automaton than that of an original and dynamic person, which changes over time and The circumstances.
Depression and anxiety sometimes have their origin in immobility. An immobility that is derived from the imposed belief that, to be valid people, we have to gala an unusual fortress before what we do not endure. Also, attached to this belief, we find the idea that our success lies in being able to overcome it and be victorious.
Many psychological disorders appear when we are not able to say in time "enough". something apparently easy in some contexts, but tremendously difficult for some people who prefer to sit in an uncomfortable and dangerous seat before making the effort to repair it.
Saying enough is necessary
In a world in which the state of happiness is no longer a state of mind more, but a constant imposition: be happy, be strong and above all prove it. This created need becomes an emotional prison that does not let the whole complex psychic dynamism that we have human beings.
One of the components of that dynamism is the displeasure and pain that certain people and situations produce. Human beings feel pain, we will always feel it, but being able to avoid it when it is in our hand is a healthy emotional strategy. That does not determine our greatest or lesser strength, but our intelligence to avoid what we know has always weakened us.
" be strong son, that child will not be able to with you; face him ". " be strong before a break, you must face to see your ex with another ". " be strong and hold, even if that work do not like it, you will have Your salary ". " relationship with all kinds of people, although sometimes they are harmful, life is like this ". " do not take so seriously the contempt of your family, blood is the blood ". who has not heard These phrases ever?
While it is true that life is like this, with hard times, we must not define strength and cowardice in these terms. The fortress has more in relation to claims of the type " I have to achieve some day in public because this is important for my work "; " today I want to have a good time and I don't have to be in the same place as my ex-couple when I haven't overcome the breakup yet ". " I won't shut up before my mother's contempt in public " or " I'll leave this job because I'm exhausted and it's not what i wish in life ".
For the vast majority, the latest claims belong to utopia, to immature or selfish people. However, the first perpetuate much more situations of pain and injustice than the second. They create unhappy people with their work, couple and friends. They create people unable to self-self for not knowing how to differentiate the useless pain of valuable pain.
Understanding bad the strength creates cowardly people regarding their own feelings. Waste Talent and passions for being in places and next to wrong people. So, think that if you're smart you won't have to develop so much strength to face complicated situations. Don't feel a coward, but someone who fights for what makes him stronger and not that he is committed to dealing with what weakens him.
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